
I forget who said (and I paraphrase, clumsily) that one’s family is like a country no-one else comes from.
During life I have met and continue to meet people who shape me, people for whom I have great love and respect and people without whom I cannot imagine living but my brother, he is my countryman.
And what a countryman he is. He has grown to be a person who, even were he a stranger, I would admire. He is smart without being stuffy, funny, handsome, gentle and loving.
He treats others well, with tolerance and respect and has a personal discipline I cannot begin to fathom.
Our young lives were so entwined that I can’t remember life without him, but a few stories stand out in particular. When we were at primary school, we used to walk home together after school. There was a big “stranger danger” campaign on, I think based on the fact that sleepy little New Zealand had just had its first well-publicised kidnapping case, that of Teresa McCormack, and fear was in the air.
All the way home, we would lay careful plans about what action we would take if anyone tried to steal off with us. “You kick him in the balls and I’ll jump on his back” was one of our better plans.

One time, a bichon frise came up behind Mark and bit him. He didn’t seem too upset – in fact, there are some pictures of him in his pyjamas, displaying the bite whilst grinning rather inanely but I felt crushed that I had failed in my duty to protect him and to this day, I am a little afraid of dogs.
We made up many a strange and mystifying rhyme too, some to annoy each other – nothing could get me going like him saying “eeeh eeh” with a rising intonation for some reason – the funniest was probably “hari mari poo-chan” an odd mix of gibberish, English and Japanese, and the most bizarre a ditty we used to sing while we were sitting in the bath.
We were the king and queen of some snowy country and would die if the snow melted but naturally, the “snow” being bubbles, it eventually would disappear. To prevent this we would chant “snow, snow, stay with us, stay with us or we will die.” I know, weird.
Through all the difficult times and the scary times I never questioned he would be there. When we went to stay in Japan with our grandparents for two and then later four months at a time to go to school in Japan, we were together so it was okay. When we had to go to a Japanese after school programme that we both hated because of all the kids, we were the only ones who found reading Japanese almost impossible to master, we had an ally in each other.
With my brother, I never have to ask where I stand because I already know.
He even still speaks to me despite the fact that I used to brandish a hairbrush and yell “Sara and her trusty hairbrush SAVE THE DAY!” and then whack him with the business end of it.
He’s the only one who can call me “bumface” and make it sound like an endearment.
Happy Birthday Mark-Musashi, I’ll always be in your corner.

Bounty Cake adapted barely from Nigella Lawson
For the cake
220 grams (about 4 rings) of pineapple in juice, drained (save 2 tablespoons of the juice)
75 grams (1/4 cup) of cream cheese
200 grams (1 and 3/5 cup) all purpose flour
125 grams (generous half cup) caster sugar
75 grams (generous 1/3 cup) light brown sugar
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
200 grams (9/10 cup) butter
40 grams (1/2 cup) of cocoa, sieved
2 eggs
Preheat the oven to 180 celsius (350 fahrenheit) and butter and line a 22 cm cake tin.
Put the pineapple into a food processor and whizz until crushed.
Add the cream cheese and whizz again until well mixed.
Add the other ingredients and whizz one more time until it forms a smooth batter.
Pour into the tin and bake for 35 – 40 minutes until a skewer inserted comes out clean.
Cool in the tin for 10 minutes and then turn out to cool on a rack.
For the icing
2 egg whites
100 grams caster sugar
4 tablespoons golden syrup (I thought this seemed excessive and just used 3)
1/4 teaspoon cream of tartar if you have it (I don’t and it was fine)
2 teaspoons coconut essence
40 grams dessicated coconut
Make a double boiler – arrange a very clean bowl over a saucepan of barely simmering water. The bottom of the bowl should not be touching the water.
Put all but the last 2 ingredients into the bowl and whisk with a handmixer with very clean attachments (if there is any fat or yolk in the whites they won’t whip) until it holds peaks. This will take about 5 minutes and is probably the most taxing part of making the cake which isn’t saying much – it’s a pretty “money for nothing” kind of cake.
Remove the bowl from the saucepan. Please be careful here, steam burns are the worst burns of all.
Whisk in the coconut essence.
Making sure the cake is stone cold, slice it in half and sandwich the 2 pieces with a third of the icing.
Use the rest to ice the top (again I found the amount excessive and only used about 2/3 of the icing) and sprinkle the dessicated coconut over.
































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Happy B’day to Mark :)
(MiniB’s b’day too…gotta think of something special for tomorrow, FAST…ack.)
Tis awesome you two have that special bond. My sister and I share some really weird things, but oftentimes weird in a negative way…still, she’s the only one who truly *gets* the weirdness, so it’s good. I often feel sorry for MiniB not having a sibling to bond with. He doesn’t even have a single cousin.
Yup, lots of hard stuff too, but don’t wanna overshare on t’internet ;P So good to have someone you don’t have to explain your childhood to.
I’m not much of a chocolate dude, but the pineapple, cocoa, and cream cheese combo, sounds awesome. That meringue icing looks so light, and sweet. I think the coconut is an awesome addition. I always have this stuff sittin’ around. Definitely a dessert special in the works. I may add a splash of rum, and put them into cute little round molds, for more of a single serve thing in the restaurant. This is a great recipe, especially for those quick, -oh shit, I forgot I committed to bring a dessert to that party- situations.
Yeah, I love me all-in-one-bowl cake. ‘specially when it doesn’t look or taste like one.
You’ve managed to make me miss my brother! Thank goodness he is coming to visit just this weekend!
Have fun!
What lovely stories and so nice to hear that you get on so well. We do miss our family when they are far away.
Oh yes, we do. Sob.
Happy Birthday for Mark (and MiniB!!)
Lovely lovely LOVELY story… it so nice to see you both turned out to be 2 of the smartest and nicest people…
Beebsie “Happy Birthday” for your beau!
I know you mean 2 of the nicest and smartest people *in the world* ;P
Hahaha ma bien sure! i forgot to add the little detail!!
A good brother is a special thing. Mine used to call me “gourd-head” when we were teenagers (long story) and I have to admit I kind of miss that.
He *still* calls me bumface!
damn…my eyes feel a little wet and squishy now.
i love you guys.
…but i do think it is amusingly weird that bums still make you both giggle like 4 year olds.
Hehehe. Bum.
Oh that is so true! I often feel like my brother is the only other person in the whole wide word who really thinks like I do and always gets what I mean. And your cake looks awesome! Love pineapple!
Me too – it’s great how it makes cakes so moist too, though you don’t taste it here.
I once went to the pineapple farm of my then boyfriend’s aunt in Thailand and she cut us a fresh one, hot from the noon day sun and it was like warm honey.
Wow, I’ve had this recipe in mind for some time and you’ve really inspired me to try it. Your cake looks amazing. A beautiful, touching post! I always wanted a brother or sister my own age for companionship, even though I know we would have fallen out sometimes and think it’s great you appreciate that.
I really do; cannot imagine feeling like some people who don’t like or are indifferent to their sibs, but then, I did get lucky with M.
Awwwww what a sweet story about your brother! And you know what’s creepy? I HAVE ONE BROTHER ALSO!! OMGGGGGG… he’s older though. but *still*.
OMG that is SUCH a co*INC*idence! ;P
Stay with us, or we will SURELY die!
Heh, that’s right, I forgot. Also: Mark is a fart in a BOTtle, Mark is a fart in a BOTTLE bottle.
Hee, I was about to chime in with “Mark is a fart in a BOTtle…” etc, but you beat me to it :D Glad I was there for some of the stuff you describe x Happy birthday Mark, I am so making your cake, it looks like something even I can’t eff up, woohoo x
Tee hee! Well it was always more effective when done by both of us.
Cake looks yummy…
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Aww what a gorgeous post and I love how you stick up for each other! Hehe it’s so like a boy to proudly display the scar isn’t it! :P
Chicks dig scars ;P
oh, my, can i tell you how how HOW much i love this? i missed it the first pass, but caught and adore it now. what a tribute. so fond, so fabulous!
Thanks Molly, I’m glad you like it, I am very fond of him :)
Aww, you capture that unique, un-dying sibling relationship so well.
My sister and I had a similar experience to you and your brother when faced with going to school in Thailand and not being able to read Thai. We hated it but we bonded and were united in our shared hatred for Thai school and its mean kids. LOL.
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